Do something that scares you every day. Or at least every week. It will change your life.
Make sure it doesn’t hurt anyone.
Let me know when you’ve done it.
I want to see more replies to this post than any in our history!! come on guys let’s do it!!!
Nice theory. you just don’t all of sudden become not afraid. Right now yeah i am paranoid. You say make sure it deosn`t hurt anyone? Is this a self physiological judgement? to whether you feel that you are not “actually” hurting anyone? Concerning what is right and what is not? and I`m not trying to be “critical”anyone.
Move, I guess this would help change ones perceptiveness when it pertains to a cheerful out look and if there was a reason for and it shouldn`t be brought on by pessimistic ideology.
Oh, I’ve got one. I’m totally afraid of spiders. Yeah, i know it may sound lame to you guys, but i am. well yesterday, there was a spider hanging from a thread on the ceiling and dropping down to the floor. As I’ve stated before, I have two little boys; one is nearly three and the other will be celebrating his first birthday next weekend.
So yeah, I’m.freaking.out. But I did manage to catch the little bugger under a glass, take a piece of paper to trap it in there, and escort the spider out of my house. This is big stuff for someone who was practically paralyzed with fear whenever one was just in the room with me. And it didn’t have to be a big one either. So that is my conquering fear for the week. I’m very proud of myself. 🙂
p.s. I did it for my babies… Strange how the instinct to protect your children turns off your fear.
Kemio: I feel your pain. I’m still trying to get over the fear of spiders.
My conquered fear for today was going first for a performance in my acting class today. Sometimes I like to go first as long as I am confident and other times I am unsure and will wait. Today I braved it and said “nerves be DAMNED!!”, volunteered and I didn’t regret it. Whoo!
I’m terrified of social situations… I force myself to take part in them…
hmm… that’s a fascinating way to put that. i wasn`t always “first” i guess. i always either last or closet to the last. mark you say without hurting someone, see my thought from my perspective is even though i would try something to not hurt anyone? there is that analyzing. it doesn`t mean that you can not try it? i’m just saying that is what nerves are for.
what i`m saying is that concerning my personality i don`t set out to “purposely” to “provoke”. i don`t set out in becoming a “repeat” offender” to anyone. to actually try something without hurting yourself, there is some thought however the encouraging fact of it is that you weighed it out.
i wasn`t always the first, yet i knew how to finish well… when have actually achied the goal you said that you were going to do. meaning last year i got an associates in finance. there’s a differences concerning being first and finishing well. the reason why i’m paranoid because i never want to “overstep” my limitations… why i am willing to sit down take notes and “listen”… i’m always concerned about the awareness that is going on around me.
and as i said before i am always seeking knowledge if doesn`t hinder me or others. not to take too out of context to anyone. not to say that my way is the right way… i’m just giving each… and “everybody”…here… my perspective…
“when i have “actually achieved the goal… sorry… each… and… everyone… here… that`s something else I need work on… My grammar skills(blah)…
Robert: I know what you’re trying to say. I just have a bad habit of over analyzing things and I sometimes lack confidence in myself for no reason and I want to procrastinate to avoid facing certain things. I have an anxiety disorder that I am trying to kill and that was part of me conquering it. I don’t have it that badly at all anymore, but there is still a bit that I must destroy. 🙂
I never want to overstep my limitations, but that is how you grow sometimes. Always listen and analyze, but don’t be afraid to go out and try something new. That’s what I’m trying to do. It can be scary putting yourself out there. (I know going first for a small performance might not seem like much, but when one has random anxiety attacks it can be nerve racking.)
SEN IS THAT YOU NAME? NO disrespect RIGHT NOW… MY FAITH IS ALL THAT I HAVE RIGHT NOW.. AND WHEN YOU LOOK AT MY myspace PAGE???? that’s WHAT YOU SEE.. AND FOR 3 TO TO FOUR YEARS concerning MYPACE AND maybe FORUMS AND WEBSITES I HAVE LISTEN TO PEOPLE ACTING OUT REVENGE ON ME trough HIDDEN MESSAGES THAT I WAS NOT AWARE OF…
YOU KNOW TRYING TO BE A BETTER PERSON??? I`M ALL FOR THAT.. WAS I BORN THE wrong TYPE OF PEOPLE??? SINCE EVERYONE HERE IS A little BIT “SMARTER” THAN I AM?? NO I`LL TELL YOU WHAT???!
MARK WHY DON`T YOU TELL ME ITS DONE… YOU SEEM WELL MY FRIEND.
TAKE ME ASIDE AS A STUDENT AND SAY “HEY MAN THIS IS HOW ITS DONE… THIS HOW YOU LIVE LIFE..,OK CAUSE SEE OTHER THAN THAT?? LOT OF FOLK TALK AND GIVE GREAT ADVISE ON YOU CAN DO THIS ON YOUR OWN… SOME IDEAS ARE “unacceptable??? and OTHERS unacceptable….WOW
Robert: Yes, my name is Sen.
And I don’t think that anybody is born the “wrong type of people”. Some are at a disadvantage due to their environment, but they can try to change their lives and better themselves. We work with what is given to us. I don’t think that there is a “this is how it’s done” remedy to how to live. I think we all have to decide that for ourselves.
Another thought: sometimes “Being the change you wish to see in the world” can be the scariest thing that any of us can do.
Thoughts?
now you know that’s well put. Sen… And logically speaking, since you are the only one at the moment that is taking to me.. Is there something i can help you with???
Not that I can think of, but thank you. 🙂
Well now that’s good Sen. You reached out.An anxiety disorder probably the reason why i`m paranoid just about all of the time..
I certainly don`t want to “provoke” anyone today especially the state of OHIO… How did I “KNOW” that i was going to show up here? being a “victim” of circumstances well you know that’s just “Jim dandy”…
Why am i paranoid? because the united states government from the nixon administration government says to lower citizens “This is you” and “this is us”…
j edgar hoover made sure of that. Sen… no disrespect i`m willing to listen what you have to say and what have others have to say also however of everything that others may find fault of me i have to follow whats on my myspace page meaning what i believe in not to say I don`t disclose the idea of really listening to what others have to say meaning religions and their beliefs i don`t “discriminate”..
And while other folk may want to ridicule me or bring me down simply for “existing” i`m always willing to listen to what others have to say.
Sen.. you`re welcome.
to all it may be concerned I`m tired of “breaking”…
You will have to forgive me Mark.. I know that you are real keen on encouraging feedback concerning.. the last thing you need to hear is me complaining about my own problems.. And I`ll try and not spam so much. Encouraging feedback.
please forgive me tonight mark hildreth i know that spamming shouldn`t be allowed…
good evening to all of you. i know concerning my comments mark when you say you want to see more replies concerning history.
hmm i think i would research before doing something scary every once in a while if there is a lesson to be learned, and there was a blog from you mark stating “if people don’t like you, do you think that means you’re doing something right”?
now i know that past blogs should not be trolled, i have reprimanded of this., however my question is when we shouldn`t hurt someone…
what if we did something scary and before we did something scary we said to ourselves.
“git er done”
and then how would we feel? the ramifications after “got er done”….
this year concerning education when trying to pursue the bachelors degree should i have said to myself “git er done” before i failed two classes??? i heard this quote before on myspace a while back.. however the larry cable guy” said it “first”…
and that’s one of my points that i mentioned being first.. maybe i should have said to myself “get er done”.
hmm…i wonder if larry the cable guy is from the great state of “ohio” i wonder if he would approve of his line being used to unleash total destruction then say “there i can sleep l knowing that i have achieved an objective” “git er done… from proud right americans”…. thank you very much…
no ones fault except that line maybe (git er done) i should have said that myself.
my education awareness was on brought on myself well.. i may not get to take another class because of university policy its just that maybe we all… should start saying that line “git er done”…
i`m am listening to what you’re saying mark. boy i certainly hope i didn`t offend anyone from the grand state of ohio… scariness mark concerning a decision should i believe is done when you are faced with a decision and you went over that decision and you did this out of peace joy and love… i don`t believe it could hurt anyone. and that can still change a person life.
however no matter how grand the objective concerning a scary decision or just…. plain …injustice…. if one takes upon themselves to do harm to another simply because of the fact that we just have to “git er done” out of “hatred” or “malice” whatever that was scary concerning decisions or injustice?? can become “scarier”… concerning justice itself. again no need to offend anyone here.
to whom it may concern FROM THE “RIGHT” not left state of Ohio, “can i have a glass water please”?
meh
i am failing big time on this particular challenge 😛
trouble is I have heard it before so have been trying to do the conquer fear thing for quite a few years.
will let you know if the situation changes and i actually do something recent which challenges me but don’t hold your breath as I have done most things that did and they no longer hold any fear factor for me 🙂
awesome
Love this challenge, Mark. Right now, my ‘what scares me’ is taking a chance and actually putting my writing out there for critique and public viewing. Never had a problem doing that with journalism, but my personal writing … it’s hard to let others judge you. Good or bad, I’m hoping this is something that I can keep pushing, if only to say I tried.
Love the new site and the blog format.
Dani